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Developmental Arrest. Growing UP.

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If you have gone through any sort of trauma as a child, teen and/or as an adult, more than likely you have or are suffering from what is called arrested development. From the outside, others might judge you and call you immature; however, if they knew your back story they might realize that you could be stuck in developmental arrest.  Typically, if you are suffering from arrested development, you cannot see or help yourself from staying locked into a certain developmental age. A few of the reasons for this are because it feels safe, you have not had the self awareness to see ‘it’ or the motivation to move beyond where you are inescapably held too. In addition, even if you recognize that you are stuck you still might not be able to help yourself. You might need someone to guide you and/or show you how and where to grow up.

The reason to move beyond a developmental lock down is to evolve and access your full potential by meeting life with a complimentary mental, emotional and spiritual state of being.  In addition, it is hard to meet the demands of adulthood when you have the emotional response of a child or a teen to adult situations. Furthermore, the perception of being 30 when you are 50 or 12 when you are 18 can keep you feeling safe on one hand and completely terrified on the other. Especially, when you try to understand how you will start to catch up. As mentioned, by moving past the developmental arrest this will assist you in reaching a higher state of being and maintaining a balanced way of life.

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The first step is to simply ask yourself how old do you think you are? (Forget how old you really are) If your response is more than a few years of your actual age this is an indicator that you are locked into the age you think you are and could be experiencing development arrest.

The second step is to ask yourself if you feel certain periods between that age you think you are and your current age are fuzzy. Meaning you spent most of the those years between there and here, coping with the trauma or a major life change that you really do not understand what happened to all those years. Life seemed fuzzy and so do the memories.

The third step is to decide if you are ready to Grow UP.

The fourth step is to find someone to help you through the process or to potentially start the process on your own.

The fifth step is to have compassion and humility for self. It is important to remember you are not alone. You have an opportunity to respond with a new state of awareness and rite action. (Rite action is an action that benefits your well being and those around you).

Finally, here are few additional indicators and practices that can assist you in breaking out of the developmental prison you have been held in. Remember that no one is to blame, including you. The result of all our states of being in this moment are a direct result of cause and effect coupled with our collective evolutionary state of being.

Ideas From Psychology Today (*modified with non-dualistic language by Suzanne Toro):

1.”Keep your promises and agreements.”

2.”Finish what you begin.”

3.”Maintain what’s in harmony and will support your well being.”*

4.”Meet your ‘perceived*’ problems head on.”

5.”Tell the truth about what is really going on.”

6.”Use good judgment to ‘resist habits that do not support your well being*’.”

7.”Own your choices so you can learn and evolve from your life’s circumstances*.”

8.“Learn to choose between actions that will support your well being and ones that will not.*

9.”Admit hard feelings and talk them out.”

10.”Don’t betray what you truly believe in or you will betray yourself.”

It takes a commitment to do your own inner work and meet the practice daily. I encourage you to really take time to evaluate where you are ready to grow up. Pick one area and start to strengthen your inner and outer being there. If you meet it daily, you will be surprised at what you will access internally and externally. It will be a humbling process and simply put it is a journey the only you can travel and complete for you. As inspired, ask yourself are you ready to “GROW UP”?

References: Psychology Today, Arrested Development

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