BeSimply…The Dance Continues {CycleLife}


The Dance Continues…Birth. Life. Death. Birth. Awareness.

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Today, is in auspicious day for me…

As a young child, I was very aware of the cycle of life. I was cognisant of my relationship with birth and death. At the age of 5, I had a transcendental moment when I said to myself, “I am here again.” (I shared this story in the book I wrote, Bare Naked Bliss). In that moment, I came into awareness within my physical body as it was related to my soul’s journey. I sensed deeply that I had been here and apart of this world, prior to this life. Shortly after this moment, I had a deep awareness and yearning to know the day I was going to die. I wanted to know the day of or a few days before, not years prior. This was inspired after watching a film about Sitting Bull (at the age of 7 or 8) and his daily contemplation of death prior to entering a battle. Sitting Bull’s ability to listen every morning at sunrise and approach the battle and death with stillness motivated me. These were deep thoughts for a young child and quite natural for an eternal being who wanted to sharpen her awareness and practices within the present moment (in or out of body).

Furthermore, from a Buddhist perspective, one prepares for the gateway of death/birth with practices that will assist one with the skills to retain one’s awareness in the bardo (the in-between). By retaining focus as one moves from one life to the next, this will give each self presence. (For those of you reading this that are in the practice and belief you are living one life. I always tell my catholic/christian clients and friends they must be getting to nirvana potentially faster or ascending quicker than those who practice from a meditative repose. That will be revealed to each of us in our death. With this being said, what I have to share still applies to this way of being).

On July 15th, I was 4 years old, this was the day my Grandmother died. I remember that day like it was yesterday. In addition, I recall when my father told me and how I was looking down at my breakfast. I can still see my food and my willingness to feel into what that meant. I felt into my father’s sadness and my own. In addition, I felt into my own mother’s energy who would deliver my baby brother later that day. I remember going to see my newborn brother at the hospital (that feels like yesterday too). The next day, my sister and I were not allowed in the hospital to meet Brian, our brother. However, my father took us to the hospital room window on the exterior of the building. Fortunately, my mother’s room was on the first floor. He held us up my mother introduced us to Brian. We could see my brother through the screen. It was from that moment I remembered something even greater than the excitement of having a new baby to play with but that cycle of birth to life to death felt continuous. Early on it was revealed that Brian and I had this ability to communicate telepathically and I would serve as his voice for years until he could communicate for himself.

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Flash forward, my brother got very ill in 2010. This illness lead to his passing 2011. This ability to communicate telepathically served us well, in his final days. He no longer could use his voice. It also helped me assist him on the spiritual level because the voice might have kept us to focused on words that really did not need to be spoken. I was able to follow through with his request to guide him out of his body. He was able to hold his attention and awareness with his eyes open and locked with mine as he exited his body. It was miraculous.

During his illness, we both came forward to tell our parents that we believed in reincarnation. Even though, we both had been raised near catholic, we both had found our way to a Buddhist and Yogic practices that were most certainly are common bond from his birth and death. These practices remain as the common thread that connects our souls. While, I cannot speak for my parents, I know that those esoteric and theological conversations as my brother’s death approached were deeply powerful and useful for myself and my brother.

During Brian’s illness and final days, I was also helping another family that had a beautiful, young baby daughter who also was sick. The times I spent with Quinn, she had this way about her to mirror to me her soul’s spiritual expression. The first time, I visited her and played the flute for her, all I could see her as was my teacher, a monk and a Hopi within the same breath. She seemed to melt into the notes I played and the prayers appeared to be flowing from her highest being back to all of us in the room. I knew that both Brian and Quinn were more than two people I cared deeply for but they were inviting me to be my highest for them and our families. My brother transitioned 10 weeks prior to Quinn on May 6th and Quinn transitioned on my brother’s Birthday July 15th. The same day my Grandmother had crossed over.

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Both Quinn and Brian feed my soul with the awareness and the motivation to deepen my spiritual practices in this lifetime. Ultimately, Brian, Quinn and my elders continue to remind me, “Do not loose awareness!” I am deeply grateful for that reminder each day.

Yes, I wish they both were still here in their previous forms…yet, as destiny would have it their transitions have been the catalyst for me to deepen practices and remember how to harness my Buddhist Skills to track one’s eternal being (aka soul) from one lifetime to the next. While, that is a story for another day, I am inspired to share all of this today to offer each of you taking the time to read this to contemplate two things…

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1. Why wouldn’t any of us want to be prepared with awareness when walking into the unknown?

2. Rather than spend time clinging to someone that is not here anymore in the form and role you remember, why not support their eternal being (aka soul) be reminding them through prayer or meditation of their highest reflections? You can encourage the soul to keep cultivating their skills into their next life or destination. No matter where they might be? Mind you, they are more than likely not far from you. More importantly, a seed of their eternal essence lives on in your heart.

As inspired, practice cultivating awareness in every moment of your being. Cultivate and deepen your spiritual practices. Both these efforts will assist you in this life and into the next (no matter where you believe that is). Brian Toro

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Love you Brian Toro, Quinn, Grandma Toro and all those I have been blessed to assist in and out of this life.

May all beings be well and happy….


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